Men tend to group women together into two stereotypical groups: low maintenance and high maintence. Women know that there are WAY more subgroups to that, but let's first dissect what men are thinking. Low maintenance girls are girls that, in a man's opinion, are the girls that let the guys do whatever they want and don't compromise their bachelor-hood. "Sure, go out with your friends, sure do whatever you want!" High maintenance girls are girls that think. Yep. That's what it is in a man's eyes... or at least, from my experience. You see, I've been told before and just recently that I'm an 'over-thinker.' That I analyze things too much. I'm a big enough person to admit that that's not too far from the truth and I have been known to blow a thing or two out of proportion. If you are a woman reading this and you are thinking, "not me, I NEVER do that," then you are big fat liar and you know it.
Girls DO tend to think about things too much... what bills to pay first, what guys are thinking, what to wear in the morning, how to cut our hair, etc. etc. At any given time, any woman with half a brain has a zillion thoughts going on. In fact, I have a friend that will say things that seem very random. If you question her about it, she'll say, "Let's see, how DID I get to the topic of your ex? We were talking about shoes, which led me to think about this one pair of shoes I had that were awesome that I wore on a date with Joe. Joe turned out to be a jerk, just like your ex." Boom. Just like that! Trains of thought are much larger and complex for women and a lot of us can't even describe how we got from point A to point B.
I said above that I was recently accused of over-thinking. Last night, I was watching the movie The Black Swan with a guy. If any of you have seen it, there are a few WTF moments in there, moments where you have to (ok, I do) cover your eyes and there are questions you want to figure out, but you don't want to say anything DURING the movie because it's so good. Well, after the movie, I was talking about some possible symbolism in the movie, and the guy stretched, gave me a "good game" pat on the back and said, "Babe, you're over-thinking this." Oh, well, I'm so sorry, let's flip on Sports Center and I'll get you a beer and rub your feet. GEEEEZ. I didn't say anything at the time, but I've been thinking about it all day today and it really bugs me! Why would a guy want a girl that doesn't think for herself?!? I mean, when a guy tries to talk something out, whether it's something he heard on the news, sports, weather, whatEVER, I listen and try to offer some feedback. I also think it's an attrative quality when someone considers something after they've experienced it. It means it affected them in some way. As people, we SHOULD question things! Politics, relationships, faith, everything! Yes, even movies. The dang Black Swan is not necessarily my type of movie so it would have been nice to chat about it after, but noooooo I don't want to over-think. I guess I'm just high-maintenance.
And...for the record, this whole blog was over-thought, which is the vicious circle of irony in my life :)
*picture-- a "thoughtful" looking picture I found :)
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